Over the last thirty-five years there have been people whom I have had only one opportunity to meet. Why only once? Because, unfortunately, they have made life-altering choices that no one saw coming or nobody fully realised how severe that person’s state-of-mind had become.
I didn’t ask who it was, I didn’t feel it was my place. They simply said that a close friend had taken their own life a few nights before. It was a sombre moment.
This morning whilst going through emails, I spotted one subject line that started
“On January 10th there will be an In Memoriam for Gi..”
I choose not to mention her full name. I always feel uncomfortable doing so.
My jaw dropped and time stopped briefly. It was simply difficult to believe. If you know of whom I speak, wow, just wow. I met her just once. I watched her sit casually in my mother-in-law’s home, helping with label and postcard designs for her honey business. She had a wonderful smile, she appeared relaxed yet vibrant. I would like to have been a friend.
I was standing next to our 5yo son Jai before I began writing this article. I put my hand on his shoulder and told him…
“If you ever see someone at school who looks sad but is not crying, always ask them ‘Are you OK? How can I help? I would like to be your friend. Would you like that?’ When you do this, you will have friends for life.”
Deep breath in, deep breath out.
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